Tag: Mindset

Ep 39- Why Your Money Woes are so much Deeper Than The Money with Chloe Elise

Why our language is so important when it comes to our Money Mindset.

“You are never conflicted or confused you are just deciding which version of yourself to listen to”

“Self sabotage is just you listening to the lowest version of yourself”.

Books:

  • How to be a badass at making money- Jen Sincero
  • Money Bitch! A No-BS guide for smart women who want to own their financial future by Sarah Blankership & Nicholle Overkamp 
  • Money mastery by Tony Robbins
  • Rich Dad Poor Dad by Robert Kiyosaki

The $1,000 Challenge–(free challenge on how to save $1,000 in 3 days): https://deeperthanmoney.mykajabi.com/$1000-Challenge

Website: www.deeper-than-money.com ; instagram: @deeper.than.money ; FB group: Deeper Than Money Facebook group ; Podcast: Deeper Than Money Podcast

Ep 36- How to Effectively Use Comparison for Your Highest Queen Self’s Advantage

This episode is taken straight from my Food For Thought FB & IG Live video which airs on Thursday nights at 8pm.

Do you ever feel like you aren’t were you are in your goals and yet others make it look so darn easy?

In this episode I give you actionable tools to get after the life you want.

PS- Have you bought your Amplify tickets yet?

Grab them HERE. 

Ep 35- Collaboration & Community over Competition with Vanessa Charles from Girl Up Podcast

In this episode I chatted with Vanessa Charles from the Girl Up! Podcast & shared how I actually found her on the internet!

We discussed our individual event called AMPLIFY & why Live Events are so powerful.

Her mission is to help empower female entrepreneurs to LEAD & take ACTION.

Body Image & how that affects our goals.

Vanessa Quotables:

“The biggest investment you should make is on yourself.”

“The biggest act of Self Love is to show up for yourself.”

Books mentioned in the episode:

Elizabeth Gilbert: Big Magic

Simon Sinek: Find Your Why

Simon Sinek: Start With Why

Amy Wambach- Wolf Pack

Connect with Vanessa here:

Iamvanessacharles on Instagram

Vanessa Charles on Facebook

Girl Up! Podcast

It’s ok to want to change your body AND learn to love & respect the skin you’re in NOW.

Sister,
It is OK to want to change your body.

But it’s very important to learn to accept & respect the skin you’re in NOW.

Why?

Because look at how *successful* you’ve been at accomplishing any goal you set out to do only using self criticism as your main motivating factor.

Listen, that shit doesn’t work long term.

Darling, you only have ONE body.

And beating it down emotionally, physically & mentally is no longer serving your ultimate health.

Every year around this time, our newsfeeds are flooded with pressure to “hurry up to get bikini body ready!” 

I’m over here like, “But babe, just put a damn bikini on your body & own your sessyness.”

But in all seriousness, here are ways to improve the relationship with your body & begin to take up space in it. 

1. STOP comparing your physical attributes to someone else’s. This is such a negative behaviour that happens several hundred times a day. The first step is bringing awareness to this automatic habit. Ask yourself how this really makes you feel deep down? Is what you say to yourself kind? Is it something you’d say to your sister, daughter, mother, friend? 

2. FAT is not a feeling love. Meaning when you feel “fat”, take this as an invitation to explore further where you are feeling inadequate in your life? What emotion lies beneath the surface? Get curious. 

3. Avoid conversations that enforce the body bashing & shaming talk. Ladies, you know what I’m talking about. The “She’s too big, she’s too small, she’s too curvy, she’s too muscular, she’s too jiggly, she’s too much, etc.” And I’m not just talking about the way we pick each other apart. I’m especially talking about the way us women tear each other apart. No. Just No. STOP that shit. 
It’s tacky & ugly. And you darling, are much too classy for that kind of nasty gossip. 

4. Get back into your body.
Do this by exploring doing things you love!
Be that dancing, swimming, yoga, having sex. Whatever it is: BE in it. 

5. Eat foods you love & that love you back. Get that water in & learn to manage your stress by improving your sleep hygiene. 

Whose excited for warmer weather?

PS- I should really clean this mirror 😛

Are you a Failure?


#RealTalk
 I’ve been feeling in a funk these past few days. Actually if I’m being at all honest, I’ve been feeling like a #FAILURE.

Now, ya gurl, knows that she’s NOT a failure and also that these feelings of defeat are all part of living the human mess in all its glory.

If you’ve been feeling like this ✌️, here are some actionable steps to help you take back yo power babe.

1. Take a DEEP breath. When we feel like we are failures, the truth is we are Self Diagnosing our physical states compared to someone else’s highlighted reels. Put your hand on your heart, close your eyes. Ask yourself how many of the 💩days have you survived? ALL. OF. THEM.


2. Lady Gaga said it best: it’s not about winning. It’s about GETTING. BACK. UP. –

3. Sister, there is no such thing as “failing”. You either LIVE or you LEARN. You are green & growing. Trust that LIFE is always happening FOR you and you are more than resourceful to figure it out. –

4. Emotions are nothing but ENERGY in Motion. Let it FLOW through you. Do not let these feelings become your identity. You were made for more. You know it. You feel it in your bones. So babe, MOVE these feels outta you. Dance, sing, cry, scream. – Just know that YOU ARE NOT A FAILURE.

Watch this week’s episode of #FoodForThought HERE.

I see you. I feel you. You matter babe. I won’t let you ever forget that. Promise. Xo

Why Choose A WORD?

Back in 2012, I was DONE with New Years Resolutions. I just always struggled to keep them. And apparently, I’m not the only one.

Did you know that upwards of 92% of people who make Resolutions, drop them before the first month of the year is complete?

See the issue I have with New Years Resolutions is that they always seem to be rooted in unworthiness. They always feel like they are a means to an end. They kinda give me a bad taste in my mouth- just like those “Before/After” photos. I mean seriously, we are all on a Journey of life. There’s no ‘end’ until the end, ya know?

So back in 2012, I decided to try something different.

I chose a WORD.

At first I’ll admit, it was a little strange when people would ask me what my resolutions were and I’d be like: “My word for this year is….”

But now that it’s been 8 years in the making, I get so excited to just share what WORD choose me. As well as hear what others have chosen as their word.

I just feel like there is much more depth and emotional charge that can come from choosing a WORD to help lead your year.

For nothing more than entertainment here are the words I’ve used to help spark my Highest Self to show up Powerfully since 2012.

2012- PERSEVERE. The year I competed in my First BodyBuilding Show

2013-PAY IT FORWARD. The year I helped head a huge fundraiser for the Toronto Hospital for Sick Children. The Korn For Kids team & I raised over 10K that year! AMAZING!

2014- SIMPLICITY. The year I had my second burnout from over extending myself in various Pay It Forward Projects from the year before.

2015- LIMITLESS. The year I took my personal training online & Feed That Glow was born.

2016- CREATE. The year I hired my first business coach & learned so much about myself & how to build the foundations to go all in as an online brand- cue the imposture syndrome.

2017- GRIT. The year my whole world fell apart, broke me open & the recurring theme was loss. EVERYTHING was especially hard af that year.

2018-JOY. The year I decided that no matter what was happening around me, I could choose how I wanted to show up in it as JOY. Also the year we started attacking our debt from a healthy money mindset.

2019- EXPAND. This year my vision is to expand in ALL my relationships, including the women I serve online. This is the year I want to help women overcome their issues with food & body image. I want to teach women how to repair their relationship with bingeing on food & bingeing on overspending. #BreakingTheBinge

So you’re probably thinking- but how do I chose a word?

Here are a few tips to help you see if the word you choose is a fit for you.

  1. Reflect on what it is you want to create. How you want to live this year? What are you planning on BEing? Close your eyes and picture it all.

2. Write down words that feel like what you envisioned above. Words (or short phrases) that empower you. Do a complete brain dump on a sheet of paper. Then Narrow your list to a few. This practice gets easier and easier with every year, I promise.

3. Let it simmer. I legit let my WORD simmer for a few days. Actually, by allowing that space, you will feel which one is calling to you more.

4.Try it on for size. Close your eyes. Now say your word out loud. How does it feel in your body? Where do you feel it in your body? If it feels warm, like home, at peace in your body- then you may have found your word.

5. Share your WORD. Write it where you will see it everyday.

I have come to love this practice so much. In fact come December, my WORD usually just comes to me out of nowhere. I’ve been wearing my 2019 WORD on my wrist since October 2018.

Found your word? Share with me!

How to eat while traveling

Last weekend I travelled- to NYC! A #BucketList fosho!

But I wanted to share the tips & strategies I use when it comes to eating- especially while travelling.

  1. First of all, I’m an avid Intermittent Faster. (I’ll share more about this in a future post)  I usually fast during the flights and if I choose to break my fast, I take the almonds- cause feeling fuller longer is life.
  2. I always have protein bars (mostly the Quest bars because #Fiber) on hand.
  3. I make it a point to get my sides as salads with dressing on the side. BAS (Big Ass Salad) is a staple in my daily nutrition  commitments.
  4. I see food from an Abundance Perspective instead of a Scarcity- so if I don’t like what I’m eating, then girl, you can bet I won’t keep eating something that feels subpar to me.
  5. My philosophy has always been #LikeHowYouEat so I prioritize protein & veggies, then choose the carbs that make me happy to enjoy.  And honestly, I choose my battles.  Often instead of a dessert, I will opt for a glass of red or a specialty coffee.

Next, this is probably one of the most important steps- DO NOT WEIGH YOURSELF when you get home.

 

It’s normal for your weight to be up a few pounds because with travel life comes constipation, less water, more sodium, more higher calorie meals, etc.

 

I can’t tell you how FREE I feel when it comes to food now.  If you had told me 5 years ago that I would be living this #CURB365 method daily, I would have laughed at you.

But I honestly, can’t see myself living any other way now.

 

And most importantly, the negative Self talk and the horrible relationship I had with my food & with my body image has been repaired.

 

And if you are looking for a different way of being, then sister friend, I have created the course to help you unpack the narratives that are no longer serving you- Food Freedom Academy.

 

Trust me, suffering really is optional.

 

And you darling, deserve more than suffering.

XoXo

 

40 years of life lessons

Today is my 40th bday!

FORTY!

wOw! Just saying it feels kinda strange.

I mean, you know when you’re like 15 and you think that anyone over 25 is O-L-D?

The thing is- I. Don’t.  Feel. OLD.

But I can tell you, I have earned everyone of those years.

To me, growing old IS such a privilege.

I potentially get a whole new year, (nothing guaranteed of course), to keep writing my story.

My birthday, is the day I give time for reflection.  A chance  to see if I am going in the direction I envision for my life.

And this year I thought I’d share the Life Lessons I’ve accumulated so far, in these brutiful (brutal & beautiful) FOUR-TAY years!

  1. Attaching our self worth to roles, statuses & relationships will always leave you empty.
  2. When it hurts too much it’s usually because you’re holding on too tightly.
  3. Nothing is permanent – except death.
  4. You’re allowed to change your mind.  Guilt free.
  5. Being hard on yourself serves no one.
  6. Whatever happens to you Belongs to you.
  7. You don’t need to have all the answers.
  8. .No is a sentence all by itself.
  9. Nothing is personal.
  10. We see the world through our own experiences. Whatever limits we see as well as what we believe we are worthy of having, will be.

I’m still working through many of these lessons. Unravelling the narratives that no longer serve for my highest self.  Shedding the old.

All the knocks that life gave me, were in essence painful gifts.  Pushing into them  showed me what I am made of.

I promise myself that no matter how confused or hurt I feel, there is always a purpose.

And I’ll keep reminding myself that instead of calcifying – I need to just keep breaking open. Surrendering to what is meant for me.  Trusting that even though I may not feel like I can get back up- I know that I have to.

Because of all the life lessons I’ve accumulated, I keep a #LifeWarrior’s heart on my sleeve- and she reminds me of how fucken resilient I truly am.

Darling 39, I’m blessing and releasing what is no longer serving me. Thank you.

Sweet 40 baby, I know what I’m made of. Let’s GO!

XoXo

The true look of Gratitude- Celebrating 15 years Cancer Free!!!

15 years ago as I lay in a hospital bed signing a medical-consent paper, I was very calm.

The doctor looked at me and said: “I can’t guarantee that you’ll wake up with your uterus. We need to see how big your tumor is & go from there.

I took a deep breath & said something like: “You’ll only take what you need.”

He smiled & told me that I was a very brave determined young woman…

I made a choice in that moment. See there was no room in my head for fear & faith.

I made a choice to believe that I was exactly where I needed to be.

I told myself that there’s always a lesson to be learned, especially in times of hardship.

I often get asked “Why do you look so happy?”
Or
“Are you ALWAYS this happy?”

And the truth is: THIS is what Gratitude looks & feels like.

It’s pure JOY to know that
every morning – I woke up!

And I get the opportunity to write another page in my story!

No I’m not “perfect”- I’m a spiritual being living in my human -messiness called life! Trust me, your gurl can be cray-cray at times. lol

Yet there’s not a day that goes by that I take for granted. Life is much too short to stress about nonsense.

Everyday I choose LOVE.
And I’m #gratefulAF for my Health & my Framily.

Cheers to this Life! I’m 15 years Cancer free today!!!

What are you GRATEFUL for? Share in the comments!

Xo

You’re allowed to change your mind.

Darling, you’re allowed to change your mind.  Change your ideas. Change your life.

You don’t need to justify or explain this to anyone.

I believe that one of the greatest tragedies in life is to lose your own sense of self and accept the version of you that is expected by everyone.

Let me ask you honestly, how often have you made a decision but then maybe regretted it?

Or how many times have you been too afraid to even make a decision because of the fear of what others would think?

Or worse, you were afraid to make a decision because you don’t want to make the *wrong* decision.

Trust me girlfriend, I totally get it.

But listen, all of this is part of the human experience, is it not?

Life is a series of making decisions.

Day in –

Day out.

But here’s the thing:

YOU ARE ALLOWED TO PIVOT.

You don’t have to stay stuck somewhere unless YOU CHOOSE TO.

Here’s a strategy that I want to share with you when it comes time to evaluate your decisions.

P-Perspective.  This is our power.  Don’t like what you see, then change it.

I-Integrity.  What feels most in your integrity?

V-Values.  What code do you choose to live by?

O-Own your decision after you’ve made it.  If you choose it no longer serves you, then refer back to this & PIVOT doll!

T-Life is full of TRANSITIONS.  Transitions aren’t meant to be smooth and easy- they are meant to break you open to grow you. Go through them instead of running from them.

And darling, you NEVER have to explain yourself to anyone.

EVER.

You do what feels right to you.  At that moment in time.

And if after you’ve made it, you feel like it’s not one that serves you any longer- then PIVOT, readjust and own the fuck outta that new decision.

Remember this, NOTHING in life is permanent.

Except for tattoos and death.

And I would even argue that tattoos aren’t even “permanent” because you can decide to change them, add to the story of them or have them removed.

Whatever you feel is best for you.

What I want to reiterate here is ACCOUNTABILITY & RESPONSIBILITY for your decisions.

I’m not in the business of blaming other people for the decisions I’ve made (good or bad).

That shit is on ME.

Meaning,  I’m 100% responsible and accountable to those actions, thoughts, and follow through decisions.

All of them.

All the time.

NO ONE ELSE.

The Blame game is complete bullshit and will never let you live your life with your highest self’s best interest.

The Blame game keeps you a victim.

The Blame game steals your Power.

And darling, YOU are so much better than that Blame game mindset.

Increase your responsibility & take your power back.

Forgive yourself for past decisions.  You aren’t *perfect*.

NO ONE IS.

Look inward FIRST.  And stay there.  Feel the feels.  Then decide in that moment, what you are prepared to do & PIVOT.

What is your head saying? Now listen to your heart.

I’ve had a few clients who’ve asked me how do they learn to tell the difference between head & heart talk when it comes to making decisions.

And here is the best way I use to explain it:

When you speak of something and you use the words: I “think” I should…—-This is head talk.

When you speak of something and you use the words: I “feel” I should…..This is heart talk.

Just don’t stay stuck in your head.  There is no “In hindsight…”

That phrase is one that keeps you stuck because we only know what we only know.

Make your decisions, and own them.

All on you sister.

Live your life loud & full.  Without justifications & explanations.

XO

Share with me what decision you’ve made that you regret, or what decision are you afraid to make.  Let’s chat!

 

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