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Season 3 Ep 60- Dirty Laundry

This is an episode that we have sat down to try to record for the past year.

 

Our Marriage has been through it ALL.

 

And what we have found is that if you are willing to do the dirty unsexy mindset & emotional intelligence work on yourself, your life will change.

 

Whether or not your relationship stands the trials and tribulations is irrelevant.

 

You must be brave enough to do the work on yourself, FOR yourself.

 

Books mentioned in this episode: Mating In Captivity by Esther Perel

State of Affairs by Esther Perel

Psycho-Cybernertics by Maxwell Maltz

I want to tell you that you can survive & thrive after infidelity.

This pain doesn’t have to define you.

There are so many resources out there and trained professionals to help you through this hard season.

 

Looking to take back your Power? Join us in The Hive. Request to join HERE.

 

Above all else, we all have a chapter or two that we don’t read out loud. This is part of the Humanmess.

All things with love & honey,

C

xo

 

Lessons we’ve learned from Infidelity

Lessons we’ve learned from¬†INFIDELITY

1. You will heal. Don’t rush it. Seek professional help. Do the work necessary to help you heal. 

2. You will come out stronger than you ever thought possible.

3. You must forgive yourself (whether it was you that was unfaithful or you were the one betrayed)

4. Choosing to forgive others, sets you free.

5. You are not a victim.

6.You will grow from this.

7. Surround yourself with those who hold space for you, in a non judgmental way.

8. You will learn so much from the pain yet remember this pain can be your catalyst for many beautiful life lessons. Go into it. 

9. Shame is an emotion that serves no one. Neither does blame.

10. Accepting what is instead of fighting what could have been. It happened. Stop pain shopping (wanting to know all the details & connecting all the dots). 

11. Healing is not linear. Allow all the feels. 

12. People make mistakes. These mistakes are not our identity, nor are they our life sentence.

13. You can choose to stay. This doesn’t mean you are weak or have no self respect for yourself.

14. Don’t place people on pedastals. They only have one way to fall.

15. Your partner cannot be *everything* to you. “Love is messy, infidelity more so. But it is also a window, like none other, into the crevices of the human heart.” ~Esther Perel from the book The State Of Affairs

You can not only survive infidelity but also THRIVE in your marriage. We are living proof. Trust can be rebuilt. Honour & respect restored. Faith over fear, Always.

And know that no matter what, you are already #WorthyAF right now to have all you desire. 

All things with love,

C

Xo