Tag: growth

Ep 36- How to Effectively Use Comparison for Your Highest Queen Self’s Advantage

This episode is taken straight from my Food For Thought FB & IG Live video which airs on Thursday nights at 8pm.

Do you ever feel like you aren’t were you are in your goals and yet others make it look so darn easy?

In this episode I give you actionable tools to get after the life you want.

PS- Have you bought your Amplify tickets yet?

Grab them HERE. 

Ep 35- Collaboration & Community over Competition with Vanessa Charles from Girl Up Podcast

In this episode I chatted with Vanessa Charles from the Girl Up! Podcast & shared how I actually found her on the internet!

We discussed our individual event called AMPLIFY & why Live Events are so powerful.

Her mission is to help empower female entrepreneurs to LEAD & take ACTION.

Body Image & how that affects our goals.

Vanessa Quotables:

“The biggest investment you should make is on yourself.”

“The biggest act of Self Love is to show up for yourself.”

Books mentioned in the episode:

Elizabeth Gilbert: Big Magic

Simon Sinek: Find Your Why

Simon Sinek: Start With Why

Amy Wambach- Wolf Pack

Connect with Vanessa here:

Iamvanessacharles on Instagram

Vanessa Charles on Facebook

Girl Up! Podcast

Lessons we’ve learned from Infidelity

Lessons we’ve learned from INFIDELITY

1. You will heal. Don’t rush it. Seek professional help. Do the work necessary to help you heal. 

2. You will come out stronger than you ever thought possible.

3. You must forgive yourself (whether it was you that was unfaithful or you were the one betrayed)

4. Choosing to forgive others, sets you free.

5. You are not a victim.

6.You will grow from this.

7. Surround yourself with those who hold space for you, in a non judgmental way.

8. You will learn so much from the pain yet remember this pain can be your catalyst for many beautiful life lessons. Go into it. 

9. Shame is an emotion that serves no one. Neither does blame.

10. Accepting what is instead of fighting what could have been. It happened. Stop pain shopping (wanting to know all the details & connecting all the dots). 

11. Healing is not linear. Allow all the feels. 

12. People make mistakes. These mistakes are not our identity, nor are they our life sentence.

13. You can choose to stay. This doesn’t mean you are weak or have no self respect for yourself.

14. Don’t place people on pedastals. They only have one way to fall.

15. Your partner cannot be *everything* to you. “Love is messy, infidelity more so. But it is also a window, like none other, into the crevices of the human heart.” ~Esther Perel from the book The State Of Affairs

You can not only survive infidelity but also THRIVE in your marriage. We are living proof. Trust can be rebuilt. Honour & respect restored. Faith over fear, Always.

And know that no matter what, you are already #WorthyAF right now to have all you desire. 

All things with love,

C

Xo

Why Choose A WORD?

Back in 2012, I was DONE with New Years Resolutions. I just always struggled to keep them. And apparently, I’m not the only one.

Did you know that upwards of 92% of people who make Resolutions, drop them before the first month of the year is complete?

See the issue I have with New Years Resolutions is that they always seem to be rooted in unworthiness. They always feel like they are a means to an end. They kinda give me a bad taste in my mouth- just like those “Before/After” photos. I mean seriously, we are all on a Journey of life. There’s no ‘end’ until the end, ya know?

So back in 2012, I decided to try something different.

I chose a WORD.

At first I’ll admit, it was a little strange when people would ask me what my resolutions were and I’d be like: “My word for this year is….”

But now that it’s been 8 years in the making, I get so excited to just share what WORD choose me. As well as hear what others have chosen as their word.

I just feel like there is much more depth and emotional charge that can come from choosing a WORD to help lead your year.

For nothing more than entertainment here are the words I’ve used to help spark my Highest Self to show up Powerfully since 2012.

2012- PERSEVERE. The year I competed in my First BodyBuilding Show

2013-PAY IT FORWARD. The year I helped head a huge fundraiser for the Toronto Hospital for Sick Children. The Korn For Kids team & I raised over 10K that year! AMAZING!

2014- SIMPLICITY. The year I had my second burnout from over extending myself in various Pay It Forward Projects from the year before.

2015- LIMITLESS. The year I took my personal training online & Feed That Glow was born.

2016- CREATE. The year I hired my first business coach & learned so much about myself & how to build the foundations to go all in as an online brand- cue the imposture syndrome.

2017- GRIT. The year my whole world fell apart, broke me open & the recurring theme was loss. EVERYTHING was especially hard af that year.

2018-JOY. The year I decided that no matter what was happening around me, I could choose how I wanted to show up in it as JOY. Also the year we started attacking our debt from a healthy money mindset.

2019- EXPAND. This year my vision is to expand in ALL my relationships, including the women I serve online. This is the year I want to help women overcome their issues with food & body image. I want to teach women how to repair their relationship with bingeing on food & bingeing on overspending. #BreakingTheBinge

So you’re probably thinking- but how do I chose a word?

Here are a few tips to help you see if the word you choose is a fit for you.

  1. Reflect on what it is you want to create. How you want to live this year? What are you planning on BEing? Close your eyes and picture it all.

2. Write down words that feel like what you envisioned above. Words (or short phrases) that empower you. Do a complete brain dump on a sheet of paper. Then Narrow your list to a few. This practice gets easier and easier with every year, I promise.

3. Let it simmer. I legit let my WORD simmer for a few days. Actually, by allowing that space, you will feel which one is calling to you more.

4.Try it on for size. Close your eyes. Now say your word out loud. How does it feel in your body? Where do you feel it in your body? If it feels warm, like home, at peace in your body- then you may have found your word.

5. Share your WORD. Write it where you will see it everyday.

I have come to love this practice so much. In fact come December, my WORD usually just comes to me out of nowhere. I’ve been wearing my 2019 WORD on my wrist since October 2018.

Found your word? Share with me!

40 years of life lessons

Today is my 40th bday!

FORTY!

wOw! Just saying it feels kinda strange.

I mean, you know when you’re like 15 and you think that anyone over 25 is O-L-D?

The thing is- I. Don’t.  Feel. OLD.

But I can tell you, I have earned everyone of those years.

To me, growing old IS such a privilege.

I potentially get a whole new year, (nothing guaranteed of course), to keep writing my story.

My birthday, is the day I give time for reflection.  A chance  to see if I am going in the direction I envision for my life.

And this year I thought I’d share the Life Lessons I’ve accumulated so far, in these brutiful (brutal & beautiful) FOUR-TAY years!

  1. Attaching our self worth to roles, statuses & relationships will always leave you empty.
  2. When it hurts too much it’s usually because you’re holding on too tightly.
  3. Nothing is permanent – except death.
  4. You’re allowed to change your mind.  Guilt free.
  5. Being hard on yourself serves no one.
  6. Whatever happens to you Belongs to you.
  7. You don’t need to have all the answers.
  8. .No is a sentence all by itself.
  9. Nothing is personal.
  10. We see the world through our own experiences. Whatever limits we see as well as what we believe we are worthy of having, will be.

I’m still working through many of these lessons. Unravelling the narratives that no longer serve for my highest self.  Shedding the old.

All the knocks that life gave me, were in essence painful gifts.  Pushing into them  showed me what I am made of.

I promise myself that no matter how confused or hurt I feel, there is always a purpose.

And I’ll keep reminding myself that instead of calcifying – I need to just keep breaking open. Surrendering to what is meant for me.  Trusting that even though I may not feel like I can get back up- I know that I have to.

Because of all the life lessons I’ve accumulated, I keep a #LifeWarrior’s heart on my sleeve- and she reminds me of how fucken resilient I truly am.

Darling 39, I’m blessing and releasing what is no longer serving me. Thank you.

Sweet 40 baby, I know what I’m made of. Let’s GO!

XoXo